How to Shop for Your Son’s Bar Mitzvah
A Practical Guide to Your Boy’s Bar Mitzvah Wardrobe
Your son’s Bar Mitzvah is around the corner—mazel tov! It’s a huge milestone, not just spiritually, but practically. The weeks leading up to the big day are filled with excitement, inspiration… and yes, shopping for your soon-to-be man.
From the moment he puts on his tefillin to that proud walk up to the bimah, your Bar Mitzvah bachur should look the part. But what exactly do you need to buy? And how do you make sure he feels comfortable, confident, and appropriately dressed for this major milestone?
Here’s your ultimate Bar Mitzvah shopping guide— fashionable, and mother-approved.
The Essentials: What Every Bar Mitzvah Boy Needs
Let’s start with the checklist. Here’s what your son will need for Shabbos, weekday davening, and the big event itself:
● Suits (at least two: Weekday affair and Shabbos…one may get dirty you know…)
● Shirts
● Ties
● Shabbos Hat
● Weekday Hat
● Belt
● Socks
● Shabbos Shoes
● Dancing Shoes
Now let’s talk tachlis—how to choose the right ones.
1. The Suit: It’s All About The Fit
A suit is more than just a suit—it’s the centerpiece of your son’s Bar Mitzvah wardrobe. Make sure your son will feel and look his best by purchasing his suit from an experienced store like His Place. At His Place, we specialize in high-quality wool suits that not only look sharp, but also fit like a glove. Our suits are made with young men in mind: built for movement, made for confidence, and tailored to last.
Fit Tips:
The shoulders should sit naturally—no pulling or drooping.
Sleeves should hit just above the wrist bone, allowing ¼ inch of shirt cuff.
Pants should have a clean break—just a touch of fabric resting on the shoe.
Style Tips:
Solid Navy or a simple pinstripe or window-pane pattern are timeless, elegant, and photograph beautifully.
Slim-fit is in, but don’t sacrifice comfort for fashion. A nice, taped pitted look will add flair to your sons suit.
2. Shirts: The Hero of the Wardrobe
Let’s be honest—boys can be tough on their shirts. That’s why His Place’s stretch non-iron shirts are a game changer. Perfect for pictures and even more perfect for dancing. They look crisp, feel soft, move easily, and save you from late-night ironing before Shabbos. We have traditional long sleeve and short sleeve, if your son is a shvitzer. We also have classic and slim fit shirts to ensure the perfect fit underneath his suit.
Why Moms Love Them:
Non-iron = less work.
Stretch fabric = fewer complaints.
Stays neat all day = win-win.
Pick up at least 4–5 white shirts for his Bar Mitzvah and you’ll have enough for Shabbos and Yom Tov too. And, as a new man, he may want to wear white shirts more often during the week. The supper stretchy fabric also makes this the best tefillin shirt ever, so stock up today.
3. Ties: Personality in a Knot
Ties are where you can add a pop of personality without breaking the dress code. Think classic stripes, subtle textures, or even a small pattern. Expert tip: Choose a few versatile ties that can mix and match with different suits for even more outfits.
4. The Hat: A Crown of Responsibility
There’s nothing like the first time your son puts on his black hat. Make sure it fits right—snug but not tight. Ensure the proper crown heigh and brium width for his size. Too high or too wide will make him look like a Shabbos tatty! Make sure he’s fitted by a pro who will guide you through the hat-fitting process, making sure he looks perfect.
5. Shoes and Belt: Don’t Overlook the Basics
A sleek pair of black dress shoes (lace-up or slip-on) Go for comfort and durability—you want him to wear them for Shabbos and simchos without a fuss. Make sure they’re comfortable enough to walk to shul in and dance in. Break them in a week or two before the Bar Mitzvah. You don’t want blisters on your Bar Mitzvah boy's feet. You may even consider a new pair of more comfortable weekday shoes to use for dancing. He can slip into the bridal suite at the hall and no one will even know.
6. Belts
A sleek stylish leather belt pulls the whole look together. Choose a buckle that fashionable, but not too loud, to keep the outfit classy and appropriate.
Final Thoughts: Confidence is Key
At the end of the day, you want your son to walk into his Bar Mitzvah feeling like a true man. He should look put together, feel comfortable, and embrace this new stage of life with pride.
That’s why His Place is the go-to destination for frum boys and their families. From comfortable, top-quality wool suits, to non-iron stretch shirts, to expert fit and service, we make sure your Bar Mitzvah bachur is ready for the big day—and the years that follow.
Come Visit Us!
Whether you stop in our Lakewood location or shop online at TheHisPlace.com, you’ll find everything you need to suit your son up for success—without the headache.
Bar Mitzvah shopping doesn’t have to be stressful. With a little planning, the right attitude, and help from His Place, it might just be one of the most memorable parts of the journey.
Mazel tov—and happy shopping!